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Maybe things haven’t turned out the way you planned or wanted due to living with MS, but have you ever felt that maybe life turned out the way it was supposed to turn out? I can only guess what your reaction is from this question, but, give it some thought.

This article first appeared on Healthline Contributors on 10/19/13.

Maybe things haven’t turned out the way you planned or wanted due to living with MS, but have you ever felt that maybe life turned out the way it was supposed to turn out? I can only guess what your reaction is from this question, but, give it some thought.

There are so many devastating diseases out there and many of these are disabling like MS; but many of them also can end your life completely. The percentage of those dying from MS-related causes is slim, although many more than we would ever want.  But, as bad as our symptoms can get, with as many functions that we can loose with this disease, we really don’t have a timer ticking as to when we will move on to the afterlife.

Personally, before getting sick with MS, my life was a hurried and fast-paced one.  It involved working as much as possible to be able to provide what “I thought was all the possessions that my family needed.”  Not even realizing that work, church, family and community events had me in such a whirlwind speed that I was missing life and what it meant to really live, all together. It wasn’t until the MS brought me to a complete stand still, did it finally hit me, that I missed out on all the really important things.

There was a day when I was head deep in self-pity about being ‘broke’, not being able to provide for my family, when my son looked me in my eyes and said, “Momma, maybe you are now disabled, but I believe it is a blessing in a way. We have finally have the time to spend the last couple of years of me being home before I graduate as quality time together”.  That statement was so powerful to me. It was then at that moment and there at the spot in my living room that I realized how much of my children’s lives I had missed out on, by attempting to meet all the obligations outside the home that I had set up for us. My beautiful children had grown up so fast, the years flew by, and even though I may had provided them with all the things that I believed were important, I missed out on some one-on-0ne, personal relationship that I had always desired with my children.

MS Inspiration and Advice

I also realized that I didn’t even know who I was outside of my career. I had zero clue on what made me tick… talk about feeling lost, overwhelmed, depressed, and most of all angry. It became extremely clear that there was only one option for me; to pick myself up by the bootstraps, change my attitude, find out who I was with this disease.  I must set up new dreams and outcomes for what I wanted my life to be.

I know you have heard the statement, “If life gives you lemons, you make lemonade,” –but that has never been more true! Don’t waste time on “what if’s” and “why me” attitudes and questions. Yes, you are going to have days that you aren’t feeling well or just bad days in general, but you are also going to have good days.  My belief is that everyone goes through rough times–even if we never seem to see or hear about someone elses.  Just remember, that appearance isn’t always what it actually is.

So, live each day as if it is your last day on earth and make the most of it! Carpe Diem!  It is ok to go through down times:  to cry, be angry, even to lash out sometimes, but, just don’t make it an everyday occurance.  Seek help if depression takes over your life.  Recognize common depression symptoms and do something about it!  Slowing down doesn’t have to be a bad thing if it helps you turn your focus on what is so important in life: which is to love yourself and others. And make whatever changes in your life that will make you the happiest and focus on the important relationships in life that matter. Try and find the silver lining in your life, even though we are living with MS. I promise you…the silver lining won’t be far from your heart.

MS Blogger and Multiple Sclerosis Activist shares her journey living with MS, tips for others living MS and her husband, Steve, offers his insight as a caregiver for MS.